As many of you are aware, the kids and I are in Pasadena to honor Lisa’s legacy in just as an important way, as hospital visitation equality and that is through organ/tissue donation. Of all that happened that horrible night on 2/18/2007, knowing Lisa’s wishes regarding organ donation, was the one decision I took comfort in. For 18 years, Lisa always said her body was just a vessel for her soul and when her soul was done with it, I was to make the best use of her body as I could.
Though I was reeling from over 8 hours of indifferent treatment at Jackson Memorial Hospital, and my failure to comfort Lisa in her last moments, I knew I was carrying out her lifelong desire to continue helping others through organ donation. Fortunately, once Lisa became an organ donor candidate, staff of LAORA (Life Alliance Organ Recovery Agency), who were separate staff from Jackson Memorial, created a relaxed, welcoming and peaceful place for Lisa to spend her last moments with family and her children before organ donation. No longer did I feel unwelcome and I was even validated as Lisa’s spouse by signing the donation papers as her “spouse”.