Tears of Happiness, Tears of Grief

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I remember the first time I cried tears of joy. I was a teenager, home alone, when the phone rang: A donor had been found, and my younger cousin Joe would soon be getting a new liver. It was entirely foreign to me to cry for happy reasons – but there I was, tears streaming down my face as I thanked God for giving Joe the opportunity to for new life. For healthy life. For the life every kid deserves. After a childhood full of illness and worry, this was the news we’d worried would never come.

Today, Joe is a happy, healthy college student. We don’t talk about his liver transplant anymore, or the fact that we spent his younger years worrying that he might never reach today – but still, I remember. I remember that fear every time he got sick and that relief when we learned he would be receiving a transplant. I also remember the sadness: Someone had to die so that Joe could stay with us, and that fact was never lost on me. That afternoon, as I cried tears of joy, some other family cried tears of grief and loss.

When I turned 16 and applied for my driver’s license, then, it was a no-brainer for me that, when asked if I wanted to be an organ donor, I said yes without a moment’s hesitation. More than 114,000 Americans currently await new organs, and though 79 people receive transplants every day, an estimated 18 people die every 24 hours as they await donor organs that never come.

Despite this clear need, not all Jews recognize organ donation as a mitzvah; there are a number of reasons why observant Jews may consider organ donation to be a violation of Jewish law. Since 1986, though, the Reform Jewish Movement has advocated organ and tissue donation, stating in a responsum that the use of such organs to heal or save a life is in keeping with the Jewish tradition and a positive act of holiness. Since then, the majority of the North American Jewish community has come to agree that organ donation gives the greatest gift of all – matan chaim, the gift of life – and that deed supersedes any other concerns.

Why all this talk about organ donation? Aside from the fact that it’s personally important to me, it’s also been in the news quite a bit lately. As you’ve likely already heard, Facebook Founder and CEO Mark Zuckerberg tied the knot earlier this month with his longtime sweetheart, Priscilla Chan. Zuckerberg is notoriously private, and in that way, his bride seems to be quite similar. In “Who Is Priscilla Chan?”, the New York Times speaks of the new Mrs. Zuckerberg’s desire to remain low-profile on all but one thing – her passion for raising awareness about organ donation. Perhaps driven by Chan’s advocacy efforts, Facebook has partnered with Donate Life America to make it easy for Facebook users to share their organ donation wishes with their friends in family in the event of their death.
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